Gini Nelson’s Engaging Conflicts

Sample offerings in science from around the blogosphere this Friday morning:

Mind/body:

Does neuroscience hold the key to our understanding of how dummy medicines have a biological effect?

Gender:

Men and women are different — but how important are the differences?

More on biology and behavior differences of the sexes

            

Here’s the final piece of Kenneth Cloke’s locations of conflict and related mediation techniques, taken from his new book, The Crossroads of Conflict: A Journey Into the Heart Of Dispute Resolution. Ken’s personal interview begins in this week’s issue of my newsletter, Engaging Conflicts Today — you can subscribe through the box provided in the sidebar on the right!

The remaining locations of conflict (at 71), and some suggested mediation techniques for each ‘by location” (at 78-85):

5. In our hearts, where attitudes become closed or open, withholding or forthcoming, self-centered or compassionate, revengeful or forgiving (heart techniques assisting people in engaging in heartfelt conversations and reaching reconciliation, such as asking direct, honest questions that encourage integrity and trust). (Note: according to Ken, this is where the greatest deficit in current models of mediation exists).

6. And in our systems, where cultures, contexts, conditions, and environments become adversarial or egalitarian, competitive or collaborative, autocratic or democratic (systems design techniques that attempt to resolve the systemic, contextual, cultural, and environmental sources of conflict in ways that can prevent future conflicts, such as using dialogue, coaching, and mentoring to alter entrenched behavior patterns).

Ken’s book can be purchased directly from his publisher, Janis Publications, here: http://www.janispublications.com.

Note: The book is also available at your local libraries and bookstores, and online through my Amazon.com link in the right-hand sidebar.

            

This continues the excerpt from Kenneth Cloke’s new book, The Crossroads of Conflict: A Journey Into the Heart Of Dispute Resolution, on locations of conflict, with suggested mediation techniques for each:

3. In our emotions, where anger, fear, jealousy, guilt, shame, and grief emanate and strive for release (emotional techniques using a subtle, sensitive, facilitative, empathetic approach, such as searching for emotional triggers).

4. In our spirits, where intentions, energy, life force, or chi become attached, intolerant, or unforgiving (spiritual techniques assisting people to move beyond resolution to forgiveness and increased mindfulness or awareness, such as asking questions that encourage responsibility for intentions, attitudes and choices).

See Monday’s post for the final two locations. Ken’s book can be purchased directly from his publisher, Janis Publications, here: http://www.janispublications.com.

Note: The book is also available at your local libraries and bookstores, and online through my Amazon.com link in the right-hand sidebar.

I’m interviewing Ken in the next issue of Engaging Conflicts Today — sign up in the sidebar to the right!

            

Kenneth Cloke’s The Crossroads of Conflict: A Journey Into the Heart Of Dispute Resolution, is a book by an experienced mediator about many things, including his conclusions after many years of a rich and varied practice. Ken’s interview begins in the next issue of Engaging Conflicts Today, and he has given permission to excerpt portions of his book here — sign up for the newsletter today through the sidebar on the right!

Here’s part of his list of explanations why we get stuck in conflict, of distinct yet indivisible locations of conflict (at 71), and some suggested mediation techniques for each “by location” (at 78-85):

1. In our physical bodies, where stress is internalized and translated into chemicals that prepare us for aggression or defense (physical techniques that pay attention to body language, physical movement, and sensory awareness, such as using body language to counteract aggressive or defensive postures).

2. In our minds, where distinctions and judgments are formed that bolster our positions and justify aggressive or defensive reactions (mental techniques that resolve conflicts mentally, logically, sequentially, and intellectually, such as contracting and agreeing to work toward solutions).

I’ll be posting the rest over the next few days. Ken’s book can be purchased directly from his publisher, Janis Publications, here: http://www.janispublications.com.

Note: The book is also available at your local libraries and bookstores, and online through my Amazon.com link in the right-hand sidebar.